Coping when one finds oneself no longer part of the two that God had joined together, is not a one size fits all solution, meaning what works for one may not work for all.
My husband was sick for three years with a terminal illness, and though I would never discount the power of God to heal him, the Doctors, from day one gave a prognosis of death.
During the three years, there were the times when he got better enough to go back to work for a while. I still found myself during that time, adjusting to being alone; making decisions for the household and making a conscious decision to stay strong and take care of myself.
I still found myself during that time, adjusting to being alone; making decisions for the household and making a conscious decision to stay strong and take care of myself..
I know of other widowed though, who were not given the opportunity to adjust and find coping mechanisms, instead in an instant, they were alone again and seem to be drowning under water by the sudden gigantic wave that had pulled them down.
One common and very important factor when trying to cope after the death of a spouse is God. Whether they were taken suddenly or after a long illness, turning to God is the best way of coping. He alone can give you the peace and comfort you need to continue. Furthermore, in the stillness of the night, when family and friends have moved on with their lives and the desire to cry on someone’s shoulder becomes overwhelming, in that time, in that hour, all you have is God.
After recognizing God as your comforter, slowly get your mind into the place of thankfulness. You are still alive, in your right mind. You still have the opportunity of a future. An opportunity to be a testimony, to help and be an influence to those around you. An opportunity to still make your life count.
I will never say that this happens overnight and for each person the coming to the realization will be different, but God the Comforter, the Constant will help you to find the means to cope, if you let Him.
Coping when one finds oneself no longer part of the two that God had joined together, is not a one size fits all solution, meaning what works for one may not work for all.
My husband was sick for three years with a terminal illness, and though I would never discount the power of God to heal him, the Doctors, from day one gave a prognosis of death.
During the three years, there were the times when he got better enough to go back to work for a while. I still found myself during that time, adjusting to being alone; making decisions for the household and making a conscious decision to stay strong and take care of myself.
I know of other widowed though, who were not given the opportunity to adjust and find coping mechanisms, instead in an instant, they were alone again and seem to be drowning under water by the sudden gigantic wave that had pulled them down.
One common and very important factor when trying to cope after the death of a spouse is God. Whether they were taken suddenly or after a long illness, turning to God is the best way of coping. He alone can give you the peace and comfort you need to continue. Furthermore, in the stillness of the night, when family and friends have moved on with their lives and the desire to cry on someone’s shoulder becomes overwhelming, in that time, in that hour, all you have is God.
After recognizing God as your comforter, slowly get your mind into the place of thankfulness. You are still alive, in your right mind. You still have the opportunity of a future. An opportunity to be a testimony, to help and be an influence to those around you. An opportunity to still make your life count.
I will never say that this happens overnight and for each person the coming to the realization will be different, but God the Comforter, the Constant will help you to find the means to cope, if you let Him.
Written by Lorraine Anthony-Bynoe
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